Self talk and Self distancing

Do you talk to yourself? Don’t worry, you are not insane. I do it all the time too.

A recent research that appeared in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology shows that self talk is more effective when paired with self distancing. What does this mean?

Self distancing is the art of removing oneself from the task or problem at hand. When we are able to create some distance, we are able to treat our problems the same way we would treat somebody else’s problems. We are always better at giving advice to others. It is so much harder to give ourselves the same advice. Self distancing tricks us to do just that.

So how can we pair self talk and self distancing? Simple. Just use second or third person names when talking to yourself. I should say “You can do this” or even better “Vidya can do this” instead of “I can do this”.

Try it out. Does it work for you? Let me know in the comments below.